Everyone should own a sex toy and it can improve your sex life in unexpected ways
When it comes to talking about sex, we do so openly with our friends. We talk about who we are doing it with, how we are doing it, and how often we are doing it. But...
Owning a sex toy is like having a well stocked fridge, it is basically something that everyone should have.
When it comes to talking about sex, we do so openly with our friends. We talk about who we are doing it with, how we are doing it, and how often we are doing it. But there is a key aspect of our sex lives that we don’t always pay enough attention to, and I’m not just talking about casually skipping that sexual health check up – I am talking about sex toys.
Sex toys are fantastic. Sex toys are great. Sex toys are magnificent. In fact, every single consenting adult should be the proud owner of a sex toy.
Using sex toys is nothing new, and the first recorded use of them goes all the way back to Ancient Greece.
They have become more normalised and accessible to an audience that may not have previously considered them. Let’s not forget just how easy online shopping makes stocking up on a range of sex toys discreetly these days.
Using sex toys is nothing new, and the first recorded use of them goes all the way back to Ancient Greece.
Yet even in 2017, we still don’t see sex toys in all major retailers; only in specialist erotic shops.
Ironically, the only places that seem to be getting more regressive when it comes to sex things are the big businesses and platforms themselves…
So just as society is starting to overcome the taboo around sex, business fires it back up again.
Sex is as much a part of my life as food and drink is. You can buy fancy cooking gadgets, why shouldn’t you pick up the latest vibrator there too?
While it doesn’t look likely that you will be able to purchase a new vibrator along with your favourite socks in John Lewis, you can definitely take advantage of places such as Ann Summers, which will help you select a toy for your needs and desires.
But using a sex toy isn’t just about trying something new, it is vital tool when it comes to learning more about your own body.
There is no greater way to learn about what turns you on, makes you feel good and, more importantly, orgasm than spending some time with a toy of your choice.
For men, studies suggest that masturbation decreases the risk of prostate cancer, and for women, it can ease body aches and menstrual cramps. Plus, it sets you up for a great sleep.
"Sex toys have loads of benefits for when things are getting a bit boring in a relationship. They can make things a bit more exciting again.
Sometimes they don’t work out and it’s funny, and even that’s a good experience."
But despite all this sex toy positivity being sprinkled around, there is still a taboo around using sex toys that stops us from openly talking about it.
"Masturbation is usually seen as a ‘male’ thing… and that attitude still hangs around: that men masturbate out of necessity and it’s a grubby boys-club thing to do.
So when it comes to sex toys, toys for women can be sold as ‘sensual’ or ’empowering’ because female sexuality isn’t seen as a ‘necessary’ thing in the way male sexuality is.
But male sex toys? They’re seen as creepy or unnecessary or gross. Which is ridiculous."
The best way to tackle this taboo is by talking about the use of sex toys more openly with partners or our friends.
Only by discussing our sexual preferences can we reinforce that this is a normal behaviour, and also unlock more great orgasms.
So go ahead and enjoy.